Are you:

• debilitated by feelings of guilt, anger or shame from a traumatic death?
• not functioning well due to life losses, such as divorce or losing a home/your homeland, that you struggle to come to terms with?

My expertise and approach to traumatic grief support has helped people to get unstuck, adapt to loss and rebuild their lives sooner.

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I currently have some availability.

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The problem with unresolved grief

Finding a listening ear to process the guilt, anger, shattered future dreams and the meaning of the loss can become difficult over time, as people expect you to ‘get on with life’.  Yet, if we suppress our emotions to ‘get on with life’ it could:

• adversey impact on our health, e.g. disrupt our sleep and/or manifest into medically unexplained adverse physical symptoms
• negatively impact on our relationships at work and in our family
• develop into substance misuse/addiction to numb the pain of loss
• leave us without a sense of hope and develop into suicidal thoughts or intent

It could develop into a prolonged grief causing you to suffer unnecessarily for an extended period of time.

I walk with you on your journey until you feel courageous enough to continue that journey without me.

What will you get when working with me therapeutically & spiritually?

• emotional support: empathy, without judgement or criticism, to enable you to explore your emotional landscape and fully express yourself
• spiritual support: exploration of beliefs, unexplained occurences, greater meaning, ceremonies, etc. to ease your suffering and pain
• practical support: handout and booklet resources, where to find financial support, etc. to help with important discussions
• awareness/learning support: the whole body impact of grief on you (physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually) to help you find ways for natural self-care (without the use of long-term medication)

Life-changing benefits:

• Reduction in low mood/’depression’, flashbacks, suicidal thoughts, risk of divorce, or family estrangement
• Improved relationships and the ability to articulate your needs
• Getting unstuck in order to help you integrate the grief and function effectively going forward
• Healing from bad/toxic theology and religious trauma, and growing spiritually
• Emotional strength, resilience and the courage to rebuild your life and live fully again
• Smiling, laughing or experiencing glimmers of joy again without feeling guilty
• Developing self-compassion and expanding in your compassion for others
• Remembering the passing and memory of your departed with more love and lightness than pain

What will you get when working with me therapeutically & spiritually?

• A sacred, protected space to relax and heal
• Empathy (a listening ear without judgement or criticism) to enable you to explore your emotional landscape and fully express yourself
• Deep, meaningful exchanges devoted to easing your suffering and pain
• Therapeutic tools, such as the use of creative arts (drawing, writing, sound healing/singing, play) if you would find that helpful
• Learning about the whole body impact of grief on you physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually and helping you find ways for natural self-care without the use of long-term medication

Life-changing benefits:

• Reduction in low mood/’depression’, flashbacks, suicidal thoughts, risk of divorce, or family estrangement
• Improved relationships and the ability to articulate your needs
• Getting unstuck in order to help you integrate the grief and function effectively going forward
• Healing from bad/toxic theology and religious trauma, and growing spiritually
• Emotional strength, resilience and the courage to rebuild your life and live fully again
• Smiling, laughing or experiencing glimmers of joy again without feeling guilty
• Developing self-compassion and expanding in your compassion for others
• Remembering the passing and memory of your departed with more love and lightness than pain

My Professional Journey in Offering Grief Support – About Me

My name is Santou and my professional experience in the field of trauma, loss, end-of-life and bereavement began 25 years ago.  

Pivotal life, faith and professional experiences have led me to practising as an recognised Chaplain and Psychotherapist to support individuals / families at vulnerable times with living losses from life changes, as well as life-limiting illnesses, and post-death bereavement.

No matter your faith, denomination, cultural beliefs – whether you consider yourself a humanist or athiest – my approach is all-inclusive.

To read more about my life experiences that led me to specialise in the field of loss and grief, please see the About Me page.

“You will lose someone you can’t live without, and your heart will be badly broken; and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved.  But this is also the good news.  They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up.  And you come through [and grow].  It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly – that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.”

– Annie Lamot

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