Transition Caregiving for Terminal Illness
Are you experiencing a death anxiety (a fear of dying)? Or struggling with your identity or purpose?
Are you needing help with conversations about relationship dynamics that may be causing distress?
Would you like help with creating meaningful honour-rituals or a memorial service after the death of a person you have lost?
“Even as we grieved, we grew.
Even as we hurt, we hoped.
Even as we tired, we tried…
to author a new chapter,
to offer hope and laughter to
[each other and]…
emerge, battered and beautiful.”
“The Hill We Climb” – Amanda Gorman
Confidential Personalised Caregiving Services
Death transitioning is a tense period in the last stage of life. It can be an opportunity for personal, emotional and spiritual growth, and strengthening family bonds, or it can tear families apart. I’ve witnessed both.
This importance of having family conversations for anyone preparing for eventual death can begin at any time, i.e. days, weeks, months, or years before or nearing the end of life.
Since my first caregiving role accompanying the dying many years ago (see the About Me page), I’ve come to realise how crucial these open conversations are during the dying process to help reduce intense feelings of guilt, shock or shame for the dying and others after death. The first woman I accompanied emotionally and spiritually was really gracious in her dying process. This left a strong impression on me, and my perception of death and dying was transformed; it deepened my compassion for others as well as for myself and helped me realise how precious life is at a very early stage in adulthood. The experience gave me with the impetus to find my purpose in helping other families feel able to have the best send off possible during a painful ending.
** This service is for anyone in the community (either with, or without, a connection to a particular faith or religious community).
How I Work
for the dying
I provide an array of emotional and spiritual support (see below) as part of a multi-disciplinary caregiving team (doctors, nurses, occupational health, physiotherapists, etc.) to help alleviate death anxiety and to fulfill your wishes on your journey from the point of diagnosis onwards.
We can prepare together for peace of mind.
for friends / families
For many, the support for dying and bereavement is a disjointed, chaotic process: they might see a professional as part of domiciliary care or perhaps a Chaplain in a hospital for emotional and/or spiritual support, then a different Priest for religious support to conduct the funeral or memorial service, then a different person to offer them therapeutic support after the funeral.
I offer all these services in one place, to give you one consistent relationship throughout the process and a completely personalised experience.
I will help you find meaningful ways to honour your loved one, and to help you create special memories that you will cherish forever.
I provide an online service for private in-home palliative or community hospice patients and their families/friends, which can include any of the following:
- ethical consultations
- communication and advocacy, including how to have conversations with healthcare professionals and family members about fulfilling your healthcare wishes, e.g. Advanced Care Directives
- facilitation of family conversations with conflicting views
- end-of-life coaching, to help you identify your goals and priorities
- sound healing, including trained singing, meditative sounds and guided meditations upon request
- companionship, including life review and reflective conversations
- emotional, including help with various concerns, such as death anxiety
- spiritual accompanying, including discussions on what gives you strength and hope for a meaningful farewell
- reconciliation and forgiveness
- religious support, including prayers and scripture
- developing legacy projects, including helping you to write your life story to enable others to remember you in the way you’d like to be remember
Meaningful Farewells Café (an open, ongoing limited-size group). This will be a free-flowing discussion in which we will share ideas of meaningful activities to support the dying and their families.
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Post-death for the family
- Providing support for families to create a meaningful, personalised tribute to honour and remember the person you have lost.
- custom-designing, co-ordinating and leading memorial services online which enables accessibility for distant relatives.
- writing a tribute or helping with aspects of a funeral or memorial service, such as choosing music or poetry